Civil Funeral Celebrancy
It's a demanding time when someone close to you passes away and you are the one responsible for making arrangements. At a time of loss and grief, it is difficult to make sure that you have given all the care possible to planning a service which reflects the essence of the person whom you have lost. Final Farewells: Civil Funerals & Bereavement Support Services can be so very helpful in distilling the elements of a loved one's life into an honest and respectful eulogy.
Most people use a trusted local funeral director; whoever you choose to handle your arrangements. Once you have phoned your funeral director, they will either ask you to come to their office to discuss arrangements, or they will visit you in your home. They will discuss the appropriate funeral celebrant for you and make recommendation based on your needs. You do not have to use the celebrant recommended by your funeral director but may nominate Final Farewells: Civil Funerals & Bereavement Support Services if you decide.
Your funeral director will help you with the general arrangements and help you to decide on where and when to hold the service, cremation or interment, transport and other aspects of the service.
If you decide to choose Final Farewells: Civil Funerals & Bereavement Support Services, I will meet with you to have a discussion with you and other family members about what will be an appropriate tribute to the deceased one as well as a consolation to the bereaved. It is a good idea for you to make brief biographical notes about the deceased's life. I can use your notes and your ideas to write a eulogy which reflects the life and spirit of the deceased. Family members or friends may wish to add their own tributes to be read at the service by them, or if they feel that is too difficult, I can read the tribute on their behalf. Final Farewells: Civil Funerals & Bereavement Support Services can help with the choice of music and readings that are appropriate to the deceased.
I will meet with you and with your input, I can:
Design the order of service;
Write the funeral service;
Write the eulogy;
Give help and advice to family members or friends who wish to write and/or deliver tributes;
Help you to choose music;
Suggest poetry and readings; and
Integrate additional cultural or family needs into the service
Before the service, I will email the eulogy to the contact family member to make sure that all biographical details, spelling of names, etc. are correct and to have your approval for the final wording.
You may wish to write a funeral poem to be given to the mourners at the funeral. Your funeral director may be able to help you with this or Final Farewells: Civil Funerals & Bereavement Support Services can give you some ideas.
“I just wanted to say thank you so so much for today. The service (at Mount Jerome Crematorium) was perfect, just as Mam had wanted. You are a credit to your profession and I know Mam would have loved the way you put things together.”
“P and I wish to thank you for all your help and attendance at L’s burial. L was a very private person and his wish was that his privacy should be reflected in his burial arrangements. We both feel that this was truly achieved; the uluogy and music suggestions were both uplifting and comforting. Your kindness and attention to detail were very much appreciated.We wish you continued success in your wonderful work and we thank you for your kindness and support at a very difficult time.”
“It was vey nice to meet you at last and we all appreciated you coming to the service in Glasnevin, since I'm sure you have a great deal to do and your time is very valuable.
J and I, along with our sister A in England, were delighted that our mother's wishes were able to be complied with as she had wanted.
Once again, it was lovely to see you and many thanks for making all the arrangements, and for attending.”